Today I found myself with a full day off. And since Mike had duty, it was a full day off to myself. Each Wednesday Iʻve been scheduling myself off, but for 3 weeks it just hasnʻt happened that way. Things be busy at the cafe . . . weʻre growing so fast!
As usual, I have a mile long to-do list in my head and probably written down in my millions of notebooks. The nature of my life right now is a list that grows more than it shrinks. Although this is totally fine, there comes a point where paralysis by analysis kicks in. The more I need to do, the less I want to do ANYTHING . . . ever.
This morning after a very rare and very late sleep in (mustʻve needed it), I spent a few hours in the screen suck. The vortex in which your eyes are glazed over from doing research, checking social media and digging through blogs and videos where time seems to just get pulled away. That happened for about an hour and a half today, maybe a bit more.
However, there was one video from Marie Forleo (love her) about how the smartest people end up doing less things because they dig into TOO many things. This doctor also coined the screen-suck term explained above. Anyway, the most valuable tip I took from the video is the goal rule of 3.
- Set 3 Goals for each day
- Set 3 Goals for each week
- Set 3 Goals for each month
- Set 3 Life goals
Having only 3 things to focus on (besides your regular daily routine/work) forces you to prioritize what matters most at hand. So today, I tried it out.
- Exercise – walk/jog your regular route, or hike a local trail
- Pick one small area of apartment and deep clean it
- Go to the mall and get a Valentines Day gift for Mike
With only 3 main things to accomplish, it pressured me less to cram everything I needed to do into one day. This was incredibly apparent when I finally received the password to my business banking which will envoke a few hour project on getting my statements reviewed for taxes. Not today!
I did hike by my lonesome which was hard in the beginning since my legs felt like lead. I came through and had a workout I felt really good about which is all that matters to me.
In fact, I have been on a major health kick as of late that started with a week of eating mostly raw. After a pretty crappy detox 4-5 days, I started feeling amazing enough to add in exercise 3 days a week which is a big accomplishment because I still hate exercise at this point in my life.
I came home with a good amount of energy in the tank and made a smoothie with a generous handful of these.
Can I just add how greatful I am that the Costco out here is FINALLY starting to carry a lot more organic products?
Anyway, I picked the small area to deep clean to be the shower. I got in there with bleach and bathroom cleaner and nearly drowned myself in fumes. I really think I took it a bit too far since my breathing is out of whack right now and I keep coughing up some gross-ness. Either way, its done and weʻre one step closer to a fully deep cleaned apartment that just needs maintenence cleaning.
I spent some time relaxing after getting ready before the mall. Its truly frustrating to get Mike any kind of gift since he buys what he wants whenever he wants. I trolled the mall but also made a point to shop for myself too. I ended up buying a couple things from Old Navy (surprised?) including these red pants Iʻll wear for Valentines day.
Side Note: This marks the first pair of skinny jeans I bought in about 4 years, yay!
So I didnʻt actually get anything for him, but while I was out I did think of 2 ideas and Iʻll either get one or the other.
All 3 things are accomplished, a mostly raw dinner has been consumed and its now time to unwind before a long 2 days at work.
I like how today turned out and have already written out my goals for the week and rest of the month. Iʻm also thinking I can modify the process and pick 3 goals at work (besides kitchen cooking, daily stuff) to accomplish per day while Iʻm there or even making it easier by leaving and doing it from home.
What is your to-do list strategy?
Instead of apologizing about how long I go without updates, I’m just going to own it. It seems to be a trend in my update pattern that so much happens which makes it difficult to come back like I was there the whole time.
Oh well . . .
It’s 2014, the year of the wood horse. I’ve been more educated on the Chinese New Year as of late. I find it very interesting, accurate and I have also used it as an excuse to get my shit together in delayed timing since it starts at the END of January.
The holiday season was so amazing last year.
We celebrated Mike’s birthday with a crazy party.
Hosted our very first Thanksgiving (or “Fakesgiving”)
Had both sides of our family come to this lil’ island where we spent quality time together.
I entered the very last year of my 20′s.
AND I got engaged on Christmas Day when I opened my brand new ipad that had a sweet picture with THE question.
I still find myself in shock about it sometimes, especially since I pretty much gave up on the idea of finding a BOYFRIEND out here let alone life partner. But, I know myself very well and after all these years, trials and tribulations, I know nothing has ever felt so right.
And even though my stubborn independent life of doing it all on my own has payed off, life has been so much better with someone else on my team. I am super excited to join our lives, families and keep riding out this crazy life adventure.
A few things . . .
Mike has a little less than 5 years in the military. In the next 2 years he will probably be away for about a year on and off. Even though I know we will make it and become stronger and blah blah blah . . . Its still not something that is easy nor is it something to look forward to.
We plan to get legally married in June of this year, but have a wedding in early 2016. The reason for this is that I wont know important information about his whereabouts or when he is coming home if we are not legally bounded. It also makes sense to start the process of joining the meticulous parts of our lives now to make things easier.
As far as a wedding . . . The timing will obviously be later than our actual marriage date for the reason above and because I have no idea how to plan a wedding and I kind of don’t even want to at this point. Seems very daunting with all the details and crazyness. But I am talking crazy right now and I know that the both of us will regret not having an actual celebration for our closest to attend. I also think that having a wedding shortly after deployments are over will give us something to look forward to, give us something to talk about while he is away, and will jump start the next chapter of our lives which includes . . .
Moving away from Hawaii at the end of 2016. By then, we will have to move as his station will be changed. Where? Who knows . . . but it wont be here. Part of me is sad about it because I really truly found myself and people that I will consider family forever here. Another part of me is excited to move on to another adventure in another state. Besides, if all goes well with my current job, its likely that by then I will be able to make my schedule fit my life and be able to travel back when needed. Long story short, we will always have some semblance of home in hawaii.
Anyway, January has been a bit unstable for me. With my birthday and family here, it felt like I was on some sort of crazy vacation even though I worked the entire way through. So it makes sense that we caught the flu for a week after that and seemed to have *finally* fully recovered.
This year I did not set any outrageous goals for myself because I know life sets them for me. I do want to put a large focus on my health/energy and do some more cleansing experiments (like TODAY). As well as start getting into the details of organizing and cleaning the apartment (which we plan on moving from by next year), organize my business better, and figure out all the fun paperwork and craziness it means to be a military wife, and wife in general.
Hopefully, my blogging bug will bite more often so I can update more often on the amazing adventures ahead.
. . . yep still shocked!
Off to shop for a 7 day raw food challenge.